This is a question for the guys and girls both. I have a female friend who says she will not date anyone without a job because she does not want to be the one to have to pay for everything. It is not that she is into people with loads of money, but she only has enough to take care of herself. A male friend of mine thinks that it is a total turn off for a girl to have no money and no independence of her own.

What bothers me though are the women who will only date a rich man and have them take care of everything for them ..yet at the same time demand equal rights. That's a bit unbalanced to me.

A very interesting topic to be talked about.I think it is a very typical characteristic feature of females.They want best of the two worlds,and I think there is nothing wrong in it.

It kind of distasteful but your girlfriend in a way is being practical and street smart. I guess money will always be a factor in a relationship - hopefully it is not the only determing factor.

In a way I can understand why she thinks that way. She once dated a guy that had no job and no money but told her that he was in between jobs and would back up and going soon. Well that never happened and she ended up paying for everything for a grown man. However, in certain circumstances some people may really be down on their luck and in time will be stable again. It's just all about trust I guess..but some people will never start out a relationship with someone who has no job/money.

If I love someone then money would come second, I have dated someone without a job but they never relied on me for money and I would never give it to them it was only a matter of time before they were working again!

On the other hand my fiance was employed with a good job but left his job for me and was unemployed for a long time, money isnt everything.

I dislike girls that only look for rich guys as though money is important I certainly wouldnt date an ugly bloke just for the money.

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Ha, and if you see an ugly bloke with a beautiful girl on his arm, 9/10 times it is because of his bank account.

Exactly I see this so much esp here in Tunisia though half the time its a young broke man with a much older rich lady but hey it works both ways I guess, I do have a friend that will only date rich blokes no matter what they look like!

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I used to say money didn't matter to me and that I could fall in love and marry a homeless man if my heart told me to. But then I grew up. I don't think I'm a gold digger but money is a big factor for me. It's just shows how much a man cares about his future if he plans ahead and prepares himself. People misunderstand me and tell me I'm a gold digger but really if he has millions they are still HIS millions not mine.

The term gold digger is used way too freely. I would personally not want to stay with a man if he proves he will never take care of himself. At first I may understand that he is going through hard times, but if he keeps it up then I am out the door.

Maybe? Sometimes it’s okay that a girl treats a guy on dates. It’s not always the guy who pays for the bill. If now he has no money, the next date he should be the one to pay the bill.

I agree Lavern, but what if on the next date and then the next after that and on and on, he still has no money and expects you to foot the bill on everything ?

I would hope that only temporary financial woes are something that you would take under consideration and not think that a guy is going to be mooching off you forever.

I do see what your point is, and all things considered, I agree with you wholeheartedly.

Everyone goes through temporary financial problems at one point in their life unless they are born with a silver spoon in their mouth. I can and do understand that completely. But men who never want to help themselves and make every excuse in the world why they are constantly needing something from someone else can stay at the singles bars forever for all I care.

I feel that if my significant other is honestly having financial difficulties and not being a "moocher", I'll date a girl who's not in good monetary condition. However, if I notice that she's not even trying to find work and wanting everything handed her on a silver plate, then forget it.

If the date is meant for going further with the relationship than obviously the girls would like to have the comfort of money as it is needed for day-to-day life no matter what anybody says. And if the guy is looking for job then it depends on the girl how much she is willing to sacrifice. But it wouldn't be proper if the Guy is always looking for some help from the girl.