If your partner does something wrong and later apologizes, do you graciously accept it or do rub their face in the wrong that they've committed? Whenever I apologize to my wife, she loves to ask, "what are you apologizing for?" as in to make me say exactly why I'm sorry and then she proceeds to rub my face in it. If that's the reaction I'm going to get when I apologize, why bother doing it in the first place? Whenever she apologizes, I just say, "ok" and move on.

Women are a little different than men are in that area. Even if my husband apologizes for something, it's not forgotten at all. I remember things he did wrong from 5 years ago and when he does something, I'll bring it up. I don't know why we do it, but we do.

I accept the apology he gives though. I might wait 5 years, but eventually it will get brought up again.

From a guy's point of view, Leeuh, that is just not right. Last night, my wife apologized to me for her behavior and I said all right. Done. But deep down in my heart, there's no way in you-know-where that I will ever apologize for anything again especially if it'll be stomped on and spit out. It takes a great deal of humility to ask someone for forgiveness and when it's trashed, then why bother?

yes i agree. men are very different from women. i do accept apologies but like in your situation, i also can't forget everything that he has done. although i have forgiven him, sometimes the past still comes on my mind which will make me open it up again. i do forgive but it is just really hard for me to forget.

Usually, men tend to hurt women more than they think. Women are more sensitive usually and need a reassurance that they would not be hurt again.