Not including the obvious reasons such as infidelity, abuse, abandonment etc., do you think too many people are divorcing over the most petty things? There is a couple that lives down the road from us who are divorcing because for 8 years the husband keeps forgetting to put the ice tray back into the fridge (why not invest in an automatic ice maker?). Then another guy I know is leaving his wife solely because he is just bored now. It doesn't matter that she was with him through all the years helping him to build up his business and also taking care of their kids at the same time.

I just think many people have crappy reasons for getting a divorce these days. The divorce rates have skyrocketed and in most cases, the kids are left to suffer. What say you?

I don't think that divorce is good but if the couple don't like/love each other anymore there is no reason to keep living together. As for the stupid reasons like you said.... no comment they are stupid.

Yeah they are pretty dumb reasons.

The only reasons I think that are reasonable to get a divorce are infidelity or abuse.

Anything serious like that is ok but otherwise a marriage can be worked on.

People nowadays tend to think of "Number One" (themselves) in such a self-indulgent manner that it's a wonder that they even get into relationships with others at all, much less get married. The examples you mention - the woman who's divorcing Mr. I-Forgot-the-Ice-Tray and the I'm-Bored-I'm Leaving You Now guy - are good examples of selfish women and men who ARE, as you say, giving crappy reasons to get a divorce.

I think another reason that divorce rates are higher is that more people now do not have to stay in marriage because of financial reasons. Women are making more money now and will leave quicker than before.

The simple answer is Yes because things change. Divorce is probably the best way out when 2 people do not want to be together anymore. A partnership takes 2 to work so if one is not committed, it is better to split

I'm a little young but I do know that in my opinion, respect is a big issue in a relationship and a marriage. So if there is no respect, then there is no healthy relationship. Loose respect and you're on your way to a bitter divorce.

I think people at getting divorced because they marry so young and without really knowing the person first. And the courts are making it so easy for people to divorce, it's just going through all the assetts and if their are children involved...but you can file for divorce without any problem. People need to learn how to work things out especially if they have children.

I agree that divorce is an easy way out, though yes if your not in love than its not a healthy relationship to be in, but it is selfish esp if children are involved, they are thinking of themselves and not how it will affect their children in the long run - its a cruel world out there and children suffer the abuse from other children etc because they dont have a mum and dad living together, sad but true and I dont think the examples you gave Leigh are examples of inconsiderate people. Just my two cents lol

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I don't think there is a good reason especially if the couple have children...but staying in a relationship will also create something such as fights...which is not good too if this are seen by children...so divorce will not create any good at all...

Yeah , if those criteria that you excluded are kept out , then yes , I do think that the divorce rates are exceptionally high and people sometimes tend to choose to separate when they could have worked it out and it's not just people who don't feel passionately about each other , even people who still believe they are in love choose to part and repent later. I believe a stronger commitment to staying together and sorting out the differences can work better than getting a divorce.

Children is definitely a factor. But my stand is to try in good faith to stay in a marriage but there comes a point in time you have to call it quits and move on; there are many successful second marriages for example and you can also start being a happy single again after divorce.

It is lovely and nothing like it if any, you can say any relation,if it works. But nothing as bad as if it does not strike.A human is blessed with one life and doesn't need to waste it.So divorce is the only answer to problem filled married life.Kids and the rest of the responsibilities ca n be sorted out.

While some think it's selfish to not try stay together for the sake of the kids, I think it's madness. How healthy is it to continue trying to raise them in a poisonous atmosphere of dislike, distrust and animosity?

I feel it's much better to part and the kids have a happy home with one parent than a miserable one with two. Kids know - and you don't need to tell them - when things are bad at home, even at a young age.

While the reasons above in the original post are dumb, yes, the irony is that it's probably the other partner who'll end up having a better life being free of such people than the instigator of the divorce, ha!

Life's too short to be in a miserable relationship. If you know it's beyond repair and you can say in your heart of hearts you tried, then leave and begin anew I say.

Love is an emotion which changes with time...i think there are number of reasons which leads to divorce.