I usually live by the rule that people became exes for a reason, but there is always a few exceptions. How many would go back to their exes, and why or why not ?

I've only had two exes as an adult - my childhood exes don't count for obvious reasons - and my answer is No to both. One is a No by default because she's no longer in this world...she passed away in December of 2006.

The other real ex...that one I wouldn't want back as a friend, much less a lover.

No way... I usually don't break off for no reason and when I do I do it with style....a style that cannot let me or her even speak with each other...I know that t's not very nice...but that's just me...

Like bully i do it like him because when i break off with a girl i do it in a way that she will hate me because makes the healing much easyer for both of us. And i will never go back to my ex, only for a friendly f..k not to make it all good and be together again.

I agree with all of you. The only difference is that I like to stay on friendly terms if possible. But I think if you broke up with someone once, then going back is re-opening the original problems all over again.

Well I got back with my ex a few years ago and then put up with him belting me up for 2 years. So based on that experience I feel that exes should most definitely stay in the past.

Yikes ! Sorry to hear that Kel, but I am firm believer in Karma, and what comes around goes around. One of these days he is gonna be on the receiving end of a good belting himself .

For me whatever is past is past and it is better to keeo it that way. Time to move on to get a new partner.

It depends why you guys broke up in the first place. If it is something that can't be fixed then don't bother. If you or the other person has not changed in the span of time you are apart, then you better not hook up again because the same thing will happen again. But if you guys are more understanding and willing to fix the problem, then I guess there's no harm in trying again.

I have only gone back, once. My most recent ex is my ex for the second time around. I thought he was a changed man, and he was for about 3 months and then the same things I disagreed with reared their ugly head. He is a wonderful man for someone else. I am sure once the hurt has subside we will continue on a friend only basis. Put the past in the past, learn and move on.

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Ha ha ha ha ha! That was a good laugh! The thought of going back with my ex that is. Never in a million years will I even consider it. I like my drama-free life

I have found that they usually do NOT change, and most people will do just what your ex did. They fear losing you so they will change to someone that is not really them to keep things together but unless in their heart they truly want to change, their newfound behavior will soon slip back to the way they used to be.

I had one guy throughout high school we were on again off again but we kept going back together because we were such good friends and none of the break ups were hateful. We ended it for good when we left to go to school and now we are just friends.

i think it depends on the reason why we broke up and the current situation i am into in the present...but for me why will i go back to my ex?? what is done is done...

What I personally feel that it is too thrilling to be in relationship with your ex-relation.Though I don't have any experience with this kind of stuff,but I think that soft corner does play an important role,am I wrong in saying so???