When you look at your list of friends of the opposite sex, would you say that most of those friendships started out primarily as strictly just-friends, strong attractions that mellowed into friendship, or crushes that are simmering like soup on a hot stove?

On a related note, do friend-to-lover transitions ever work? Or, if you want to explore the flip side of the question, can you become a platonic friend of an ex-lover?

I think they can work but I want to address an issue. I do not approve of my boyfriends having girl Friends. I do not believe that two people of the opposite sex can be true friends. One is always attracted to the other.

Most the time that is pretty true. But I do have a few really good guy friends that have never been attracted to me that and I have never been attracted to them that way. But at the same time, I have two older brothers and I am very comfortable just hanging out as one the guys. However, like I said, your statement for the most part is true, and the majority of times there is someone liking the other person, and just not saying it.

i am on a friends to lover relationship right now and were doing good in terms of are relationship. It is good that we are friends first before we became lovers cause atleast we already know each other.

That’s good, it is so important to also be friends with the person you are with. It shows respect, honor and all of the wonderful things a relationship is about.

Sometimes this transition - friends to lovers - is nice, but can sometimes be fraught with many dangers as well.

Most of the time, I tend to shy away from even trying to make the change, since I do worry about "what ifs" such as "What if we have a bitter breakup and can't be friends ever?"

Hmm...if we are friends love will definetly happen,friendship the first step to fall in love.

It depends onthe opposte sex if they really look very hot hen hte friendship will leads to an affair.

I have a lot of friends from the opposite sex and it never became anything other than just friendship, one of my bestfriends is the opposite sex and we did start to feel more than just a friendship connection which to me is normal when you are that close its easy to confuse the feelings, we decided not to get involved in a relationship and it worked well hes getting married in August and I get married in a few weeks, we didnt want to ruin the friendship with the 'what if's' I couldnt stand losing him as a friend if we did break up. I think on the other hand it can work well for many couples.

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Friendship to me is always the beginning and foundation of a more serious relationship. It is at this stage when you make the crucial decision whether to take the next plunge or not.

I am of the view point that relationship of friendship between opposite sex can never be platonic.Physical attraction is such a natural trait in we humans and surely a very strong one.A person can of course can suppress such feeling and can go ahead with the relation otherwise also, but can not completly deny the fact that attraction is surely there.

There are exceptions to this though. If a gay man and a gay woman are best friends, I really don't see it going anywhere but to a platonic level only.

It is possible for friends to become lovers. They say friendship is a great foundation in every boy and girl relationship. You will know each other better and when the time for both of you to be ready for a commitment then the adjustment period will be a lot easier for both of you.